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We’ve all been there before, the sudden or sometimes even expected situation that drops our jaw, puts that lump in our throat, causes our heart to skip a beat and downright scares us. We can be frightened by big things and small, seemingly insignificant things as well. Fear can be paralyzing, leaving us feeling stuck with no energy or motivation to do anything about it.

Fear looks for opportunities to enter our lives in various ways through situations at home, at work, in local news and worldwide events. Sometimes our very own thoughts cause us great fear and anxiety. In fact, our thoughts are usually at the core of it all. More on that later.

For now, consider these workplace examples and notice how the thought of them can make you feel. Maybe you are seeking employment and after so many rejections you’re not sure if you will ever find the right job. Or, maybe you have a job that you somewhat like and now there is talk of downsizing or the company closes or they decide they just don’t need you anymore.

Feeling afraid in these situations is natural. The good news is we have access to the supernatural.

Even in the most devastating situations, we can tap into an inner peace and not be afraid. It may seem unreal or even unlikely. It’s a peace that surpasses all understanding.

We need not wait for catastrophic events to practice tapping into this peaceful place and releasing the fear that does not serve us. This is something we can practice daily. It’s important to remember that we all have access to it, no matter what our circumstances. Nothing can separate us from it.

It’s easy not to be afraid when all is well. It’s possible to do so when things are not well.

We can look at a situation from different points of view. Doing so changes our perspective and also our thoughts about it. This brings us back to the topic of thoughts.

I was recently having a conversation with someone who was sharing some of her fears and anxiety with me. She began by talking about how bothersome certain behaviors of other people were to her. Then she turned the conversation toward herself and questioned whether she too may be reflecting some of these same attributes in a different way. In the end, she was left with an emptiness that seemed to scare her.

After listening to her dilemma, I offered some suggestions and techniques that might help. I also helped her recognize some of her triggers and how she might respond differently when they occurred.

As she processed this information, she responded in an interesting way.

“If I do these things,” she said. “I feel like I will be tricking myself into thinking everything is okay.”

What if, I thought, sometimes things really are okay and we are tricked into thinking they are not? The enemy is good at bringing us down.

We were not given a spirit of fear but rather one of love and of a sound mind. We have to remind ourselves of this. It is no trick; it is the truth.

This is not to say that everything is always okay. We must be mindful not to let fear cloud our judgment or influence our choices.

One way to break through fearful moments is to begin giving thanks in advance for the good things that are on the way. Give thanks for the job that will be offered, for the money that will be provided, for the relationship that will be healed and even for the parking space that will open up for you.

We can also counteract fear by looking for something good. While there is much negativity in our world today, there are also many good things happening. If we look for them, we will find them.

This does not mean we ignore the tough and scary situations. It means we better prepare ourselves to deal with them, bringing a sense of goodness to help in these situations.

We can trust that there is something bigger than ourselves at work and that we will be given the strength we need to persevere and help one another.

We must allow our faith to be bigger than our fears.

In the end, everything will be okay. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

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Lucy Wellmaker is a weekly blogger helping others discover deeper meaning to everyday moments through “My Weekly Wow” at LucyWellmaker.com