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Working towards our goals can take much effort and determination. It can be frustrating and exhausting at times. We may sometimes feel like giving up. It is not unusual for people to give up and quit right before they are about to succeed.

This is clearly illustrated in Napoleon Hill’s story, “Three Feet from Gold” found in his book, Think and Grow Rich. In the story, we learn of miners in the gold rush days who labored for weeks mining for gold.

After much effort, hard work and no gold, they decided to quit. When they did, what they didn’t know was that they were only three feet away from massive amounts of gold!

It can be difficult to know just how hard and long to push ourselves towards our goals. Sometimes there seems to be a fine line between pushing to make things happen and stepping back to allow things to unfold.

We may see “giving up” as negative and synonymous with surrendering. We may associate it with throwing in the towel, waving the white flag and ceasing to take action towards our goals.

On the contrary, surrendering can be a very effective and intentional way to reach our true potential. Sometimes, it is only when we “give up” our will that we are open to seeing another way that is even greater than what we could imagine for ourselves.

Surrendering does not mean that we stop taking action or working hard. Surrendering is about letting go of the outcome and trusting the process as we continue to do our part.

This means that we still do the drill when we are in a job search. We update our resume, we attend networking events and job fairs, we schedule informational sessions and prepare ourselves for interviews.

First we get really clear on our desired outcome and then we let it go and allow the process to unfold. As we send our resume in to the dream position, we can release it and not be consumed with how it is received or responded to. In letting go of the outcome, we gain and maintain the energy we need to continue moving forward in our search.

Rather than getting hung up on one particular job or our desired outcome, we can turn it over to a higher power. In this way, we hand over that which we cannot control.

In doing so, we open ourselves up to receiving what we want in ways that we may not even know exists. Often times our desires are tied to certain feelings or ways of being. We don’t always realize that these can be achieved in other ways.

For example, we may think we want more clients to meet our financial goals and instead we may receive an opportunity to do something different that offers a salary that would have the same or an even greater impact. Life has an interesting way of presenting us with what we actually need.

Surrendering to our will opens us up to a greater one. This comes with divine guidance and inspired action that we must take in order to fulfill it.

Surrendering is not a passive process. It is action oriented. While the actions we are called to take may be challenging, they will also come with a sense of enthusiasm. This differs from those actions that come with a sense of dread.

Surrendering can still be hard work and the hardest part may be the patience it involves. Things take time to unfold and they will not always match the time frame we feel is best for us.

We may be familiar with the idea that “when one door closes, another one opens.” Recently I have seen this taken a bit further with, “Until God opens the next door, praise Him in the hallway.”

Praising and giving thanks even before we know what is next puts us in a better position to attract good things into our life. It is a way to resist negativity and to show that we believe the process.

So, when is the best time to surrender? Now.

Let it go and know that everything is going to be okay.

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Lucy Wellmaker is a weekly blogger helping others discover deeper meaning to everyday moments through “My Weekly Wow” at LucyWellmaker.com